How WFH Helped Us Get out of a Dry-spell
These last two years have been tough on most people, and I don’t just mean in terms of financial or physical well being but it’s also taken a huge mental toll on most of us. As someone who is in an incredibly privileged position, when it comes to my work, I didn’t think the emotional impact of this lockdown/quarantine would be so big on my life.
We started off as most people did, really enjoying the novelty of this large-scale lockdown and using that time to try and rekindle those old relationships or to really make time to focus on…
When One Door Closes, Two More Opens
Before I get to how the aforementioned break-up or the threesome happened, it’s important to understand where I was during that period. It was the summer and university was out. The only people on campus were those of us who had on-campus jobs or some other engagement. I was dating Mr. All-American. He was blonde, blue-eyed, and a football player. The uber Christian who preferred to fuck me with the lights off.
I was at a period in my life where I was figuring out what I liked, both in and out of the bed. He was the only All-American/football…
For the Horny Teenager in All of Us
Car sex, a rite of passage for most of us. But as we come into our adulthood and our freedoms expand we hardly ever contemplate going back to it. Yes, there are legal reasons that you may want to avoid sex in public but hey it was illegal when you were a teenager too and nothing stopped you then.
It may surprise you to know that a study conducted by researchers at the University of South Dokota found that of 195 men and 511 women surveyed, 60% have had sex in a car. In fact 14% of them lost their…
The Problem with How First Time Sex is Depicted
I f you’ve ever picked up a book where a woman is having sex for the first time or even watched a film about it, the scene is always depicted the same. The intense concentration of the man’s face so as to be gentle with the woman, the sudden back bowing and AHHHH from her as he supposedly tears through her hymen and the pain that she experiences.
The issue with this imagery is that it isn’t the norm for everyone. In today’s day and age, many women don’t even have a physical barrier or a hymen that needs to…
A Love Letter to Meaningful Female Relationships
She’s not like other girls, a trope we frequently see in all forms of art. Whether it’s a movie about the irresistibly gorgeous girl who is a reserved tomboy or a book where the redhead is in love with a guy whose dating the blonde cheerleader it’s a trope that’s constantly thrown at us from the time we are able to speak. Even in 2021 with its renewed wave of feminism, we are still bombarded with this messaging. Don’t be like other girls, be the unique one even if it’s at the cost of forming meaningful female friendships. …
Which Apps Worked Well for Our Polyamorous Lifestyle
Finding dates for group sex can be challenging in a world where people struggle to find a single person to date. As someone who has been in a long-term relationship that started in university, it’s something that was even more challenging. Both my partner and I aren’t active in the dating game and frankly, the idea of dating in 2021 is daunting for both of us.
When we first started off in our sexual journey of inviting others to join us in the bedroom, we strictly used our social circle. In a way, we were quite lucky to have friends…
Unexpected Adventures in Swinging
When it comes to group sex, our tastes and partners tend to be people of a similar age. Part of this is because we would engage with those in our social circles who predominantly are college or work friends and secondly because it’s within our comfort zones. Neither of us have ever dated people a lot older than us so it’s really not a territory we are comfortable with.
Recently we had a swinger date with a couple who were middle aged. Both my partner and I are in our late 20s early 30s so this was our first time…
How Cuckolding Helped My Long Distance Relationship
People love sex. We love the act, talking about it, reading about it and for some writing about it. At the start of our careers, my partner worked as a consultant, which required him to travel quite extensively.This also made maintaining a physical relationship a tad harder, travelling back and forth was not sustainable financially. So we got a little creative in order to keep our sex lives active. Enter cuckolding…
Now for those of you who may not be familiar with the concept, cuckolding is a fetish where you enjoy watching your partner engage in sexual acts with someone…
What Being Dominated by Two Men Taught Me About Myself
It’s the year of self-discovery and although I’m not the most submissive woman out there I do enjoy being dominated in bed. It’s something we dabble in every so often but not a prominent part of our sex life. Primarily because I’m not a sub and my partner isn’t a dom, not in the strictest sense of the word. So one night we decided to invite a real dom into our bedroom to see what that would be like.
We have had a few group sex/threesomes at this point and feel quite comfortable inviting others to join us in the…
And How it Helped Boost My Confidence
College tends to be a time where most of us find ourselves, especially when it comes to our sexual preferences. Regardless of where you may have gone to school, it’s a time where you suddenly find yourself surrounded by a whole new group of somewhat like-minded individuals. So it may not come at any surprise that my first experience with another woman happened while at university.
This isn’t your cliched drunken night leads to a naked pillow fight ending in hot sex. It’s far more practical. I was a freshman in university and like most freshmen had to stay in…
Charu
Sex-Positive WOC | Feminist | Writing about my experiences | Exploring my sexuality
